Reasons why you should get over your break-up…
So, you just had your heart broken and the last thing you want to do is face the world again. I get it.
The problem is the longer you spend locked up inside, the harder it will be to get back out there and move on. Recently I met with my doctor who is close in age to me and went through a bad break-up. She had been dating this guy for just over 2 years and although the relationship was long distance she was pretty sure he was the one.
So, of course she felt totally devastated when he called her to tell her he could no longer be with her. What I can tell you about my doctor is that she is very brave and got up the next day, went to work and forced herself to not think about it. She was doing great!
For many of us this isn’t so easy and we just can’t quite face it. Thus, I have created a list of reasons why you should get over you break-up and try and get out of bed (If not for health reasons alone…everybody needs to take a shower 😉
- If it’s meant to be, this guy will come back…there is no point on dwelling on it
- If you were having fights or disagreements often then he probably wasn’t on the same page as you
- There is probably someone better suited for you
- You can now do everything you wanted to do, take that trip, go skydiving, get a new job, whatever your heart desires!
- Everything happens for a reason, maybe you both need some space and time to reflect
- You may be happier alone for a while. Being single isn’t bad!
- If he wasn’t treating you the way you deserve, he doesn’t deserve for you to feel bad. Move on
- Tomorrow is a new day, you never know what’s going to happen..
- You can watch your tv shoes, eat whatever you want and just be you (how great is that J )
- Your friends and family will still love you and guess what they’re not going anywhere
If a break-up has you down, just try and focus on the positive aspects. It won’t be easy but in the long-run you will be glad you did. Think of this as a growing experience and a time of self-reflection. You can get through this and you will come out better for it.
Until next time,
Miss Behaving xox
Surviving one day at a time…
A breakup can be a life altering thing; it literally can send you through a loop if you weren’t expecting it. So, what do you do when all of a sudden the person you love has decided to pull the plug, how do you go about your everyday life without them?
We all know what it feels like, you get used to speaking to them before you go to bed, you spend most of your free time with them, they know your likes, your dislikes and hey they even have their own side of the bed. Suddenly it’s like a piece of the puzzle is missing and you don’t know how to go on without them. What I’m here to tell you is you will survive!
Getting used to someone not being in your life is never easy (no matter how they left) but it doesn’t need to be impossible. What it will take is a step by step process to getting back to a normal routine. Find out what YOU like to do and what things you would like to accomplish in your future. What it doesn’t mean is stalking/calling your ex everyday begging them to take you back.
It’s not easy forgetting someone you cared about but gradually you will move on, I can’t tell you how long this will be or when but one day you will realize you are better off without them. Believe me when I tell you I have been there and as much as the heartache hurt (almost killed me), in the end I was the person who was better off.
Give yourself time, lean on your friends and family and spend time finding yourself. You never know who you might meet along the way!
Until next time,
Miss Behaving xox
The dreaded DTR (determine the relationship- google it it’s a real acronym)
When you reach a certain point in any romantic relationship you have to wonder where this is going. Do we have a future together or is this just a fling? Well ladies sometimes the DTR can be the end of a relationship. Why? Because although we may think things are going really well our partner in this process may be feeling quite the opposite.
You see, as women we like to have clarity, we like to know that this relationship is going to last and we usually like to have some kind of official notification (let’s just call it a Facebook check on our relationship status). However, some guys like to date girls just to see if there is anything more there. When things start to get serious they may get scared and run away. However, at the end of the day if a guy isn’t sure that he wants to be in a relationship with you maybe he’s not so great after all.
I will warn you, however, most guys like to take their time and be sure that they are fully committed to you before making the jump into a relationship. But, when a guy tells you he isn’t sure or he is having second thoughts it may be time to take a step backwards and run the other direction. Dating should be fun and care-free but let’s face it; we would at least like to know that this (whatever it is) is on track to something. No, I’m not saying we need to hear wedding bells in our future but an opportunity to say “hi blah blah” this is my boyfriend (insert name). After all, we like this person and we are proud to be with them!
So ladies, if a guy is breaking it off with you because you want to DTR then don’t worry because he obviously wasn’t worth it anyway. Move on and find someone who will want to be with you, without you have to ask in the first place…
Good luck girls J
Until next time!
Miss Behaving xox
Do you ever wish you had an on/off switch for your emotions?
It’s not easy getting over someone especially when they broke your heart. I can’t count the amount of times that I have wished I could just switch off my feelings so I wouldn’t have to hurt anymore. I mean, if they can invent shuttles that can go into space, why can’t they invent some kind of pill that switches off the pain of heartache? Seriously…
I find it especially hard this time of year when you see so many friends getting engaged. As much as you want to be happy that you are alone, it’s not always as easy with everyone and their mother walking to the alter. I get it.
So, if we can’t have some kind of pill to take away the pain and we can’t switch the off button on our brains to stop us from thinking about that person, what can we do? Well, how about a good distraction. Over the last few weeks I have found my life has been quite hectic with things that I wasn’t planning for (example my car breaking down). All these “distractions” have helped me to take my mind of that person.
However, you may think that there isn’t anything on this planet that will distract you from your feelings right now and that’s ok too. Everyone needs time to grieve but what I’m trying to tell you lady is to get off your butt and do things that won’t have you sitting around and moping.
It’s Christmas time (my favorite time of the year), go get a tree, decorate it and plan a holiday party, invite all your friends and enjoy the season (with or without a guy), think of it this way it’s one less present to buy and one less argument to have about which family you should be spending the holidays with. This is a blessing!
Remember ladies, you are loved, you have family and friends who will want to spend this holiday season with you, so go ahead and breakout the eggnog and enjoy yourself, you deserve it!
And, who knows maybe one day they will invent that miraculous pill.
Until next time, happy holidays!