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Break-up Tip #45

Reasons why you should get over your break-up…

So, you just had your heart broken and the last thing you want to do is face the world again. I get it.

The problem is the longer you spend locked up inside, the harder it will be to get back out there and move on. Recently I met with my doctor who is close in age to me and went through a bad break-up. She had been dating this guy for just over 2 years and although the relationship was long distance she was pretty sure he was the one.

So, of course she felt totally devastated when he called her to tell her he could no longer be with her. What I can tell you about my doctor is that she is very brave and got up the next day, went to work and forced herself to not think about it. She was doing great!

For many of us this isn’t so easy and we just can’t quite face it. Thus, I have created a list of reasons why you should get over you break-up and try and get out of bed (If not for health reasons alone…everybody needs to take a shower 😉

  1. If it’s meant to be, this guy will come back…there is no point on dwelling on it
  2. If you were having fights or disagreements often then he probably wasn’t on the same page as you
  3. There is probably someone better suited for you
  4. You can now do everything you wanted to do, take that trip, go skydiving, get a new job, whatever your heart desires!
  5. Everything happens for a reason, maybe you both need some space and time to reflect
  6. You may be happier alone for a while. Being single isn’t bad!
  7. If he wasn’t treating you the way you deserve, he doesn’t deserve for you to feel bad. Move on
  8. Tomorrow is a new day, you never know what’s going to happen..
  9. You can watch your tv shoes, eat whatever you want and just be you (how great is that J )
  10. Your friends and family will still love you and guess what they’re not going anywhere

If a break-up has you down, just try and focus on the positive aspects. It won’t be easy but in the long-run you will be glad you did. Think of this as a growing experience and a time of self-reflection. You can get through this and you will come out better for it.

Until next time,

Miss Behaving xox

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Breakup Tip #41

The letdown, we’ve all had them, right?

Relationships aren’t easy; you hear it over and over again. You will have your ups and your downs but you need to stick through it. Unfortunately, there will come a time when your significant other will let you down (or vice versa). This won’t be something you plan on but let’s face it we’re all human…

Now, I’m not telling you to let this guy go because he didn’t do something he said he was going to do or he was supposed to pick up your mother from the airport but he totally forget. These things are forgivable but when a guy lets you down time after time, should you stay with him or not?

For most women we are more prone to letting things go, we say our peace and get over it. However, when a guy does something to diminish your trust time after time, it may be time to ask why are we sticking around? In particular, if a guy you are dating doesn’t seem to care anymore or he is just too lazy to do something, shouldn’t that be a huge flashing warning sign that he isn’t the
one?

I would think so.

Love is blinding, it’s true! We can make up a million excuses for a guy we are madly in love with. What I’m trying to tell you is, if a guy is consistently letting you down, not giving you the time of day or just couldn’t care less if he sees you or not, he is probably not going to get any better.

Cut the ties and let him loose, you deserve to be treated with the same respect you give him. Admittedly, guys and girls will let each other down, we all make mistakes but when a guy doesn’t care enough about a girl it will be clear in his actions. So, keep this in mind, don’t get walked over, be strong and be brave, if he isn’t the one it’s better to know now than later.

Until next time,

Miss Behaving xox

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Breakup Tip #40

Surviving one day at a time…

A breakup can be a life altering thing; it literally can send you through a loop if you weren’t expecting it. So, what do you do when all of a sudden the person you love has decided to pull the plug, how do you go about your everyday life without them?

We all know what it feels like, you get used to speaking to them before you go to bed, you spend most of your free time with them, they know your likes, your dislikes and hey they even have their own side of the bed. Suddenly it’s like a piece of the puzzle is missing and you don’t know how to go on without them. What I’m here to tell you is you will survive!

Getting used to someone not being in your life is never easy (no matter how they left) but it doesn’t need to be impossible. What it will take is a step by step process to getting back to a normal routine. Find out what YOU like to do and what things you would like to accomplish in your future. What it doesn’t mean is stalking/calling your ex everyday begging them to take you back.

It’s not easy forgetting someone you cared about but gradually you will move on, I can’t tell you how long this will be or when but one day you will realize you are better off without them. Believe me when I tell you I have been there and as much as the heartache hurt (almost killed me), in the end I was the person who was better off.

Give yourself time, lean on your friends and family and spend time finding yourself. You never know who you might meet along the way!

Until next time,

Miss Behaving xox

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Breakup Tip #39

Breakups are tough just ask those kicked off the Bachelorette…

A new season of the Bachelorette is upon us and while the girls across the nation gather around their TV’s to see the latest drama and make fun of how ridiculous some of those cheesy lines are (I believe my husband is in this room…please), we can take a few things away from the guys.

Break-ups, whether on TV or off it are hard. Yes, you may have only known said person for about 20 minutes or less because she (or he) was busy meeting other attractive 20-something year olds but that was a genuine connection and you have every right to be broken hearted.

Well, just like the many broken hearted bachelors, many of us can relate to having our heart broken. You see it doesn’t always matter how long you’ve known someone, it can take an instant to fall in love with someone and in the next minute they may be leaving you high and dry. What I’m trying to tell you ladies is that just if these poor tormented (somewhat handsome) men on the Bachelorette can be broken hearted, so can you. Who cares if you only knew the guy for 5 days, it still hurts!

What I’m trying to say here is that, breakups suck, no matter how long the relationship lasted. So, don’t feel bad that you only dated him for a month, if he meant a lot to you then you rightly feel a little sad. But, the good news here is you don’t need to spend another minute wanting him. Let some other girl deal with his drama because you are officially young, free and single and you deserve someone who will stick around for the long haul.

Until next time,

Miss Behaving xox

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Breakup Tip #38

To Facebook or not to Facebook, that is the question…

For many of us we like to tell the world that we are exclusively dating (insert lovers name). However, for others of us (myself included) we don’t like the world in our personal business. So, when it comes to our relationship status on Facebook what do we do when the relationship is over?

It’s the one thing that we all dread at the end of a relationship…updating our relationship to single (or nothing) with the hopes that the little broken heart won’t post on our newsfeed for the world to see. Why? Because we all deserve to have the freedom to grieve and cry (and let’s face it eat as much Ben and Jerry ice cream as we please) without the world wanting to comment on it.

Oh and guess what! I don’t care that you “like” my new single status…I am miserable and you should leave me alone. I get it.

So, this ladies is my advice to you. If a relationship you have publicly advertised on Facebook has come to an end, don’t panic. Just hide it from your newsfeed and your profile page and if someone asks you about it be honest (dude was a jerk). It doesn’t need to be another hurdle to cross, after all it’s just a webpage and today’s news will be dead and gone by tomorrow. So Why stress the little stuff, you can get through this and if you need to take a Facebook break, I say do it. A little break from the computer never hurt anyone.

Good luck, ladies.

Until next time,

Miss Behaving xox

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Breakup Tip #37

WARNING! Don’t get too attached…

As women we tend to think long term, we want to think this relationship will last forever and when our significant other seems to be really into us we can’t help but get a little carried away. The problem? If we let ourselves get so attached to one person if they break-up with us we will be devastated.

I remember I had a friend who told me to never let myself get too attached to the person I was dating. Instead she told me to date around, always have a guy on the back burner and NEVER let him know how much you like him. Why? Because when a guy thinks he has you he tends to lose interest. While you may be picking out his and hers bath towels he is busy looking for a way to tell you that he doesn’t see this relationship going anywhere (ouch!).

So, what does this mean for the ladies who are in a loving relationships that they believe will never end? Well, as much as we hope it doesn’t end in tears we also know that being aware of what could happen might be the better option. Why? Because let’s face it no one wants to have their heart broken but if it does happen at least you didn’t dive in head first.

Let yourself enjoy your time together, take each day one by one and if it’s meant to be, it will be!

Until next time xox

Miss Behaving

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Song of the Day: Toast to Men

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