Worry, it happens to the best of us…
Have you ever been in a relationship that was going along just fine when all of a sudden our good friend worry steps onto the scene and begins to make you question it?
We’ve all been there right…wondering if this person is the right one for us, will he hurt us, what if, and but he could do this thing and many other questions may randomly cross your mind. Having doubts about someone may be normal in the beginning but after a certain point we should trust the other to not break our hearts.
However, many women (such as myself) have trouble trusting someone after we’ve already been hurt before, this is totally normal. But, when the worries, doubts and concerns turn into us being constantly paranoid, I think it’s time to let them go. I’ve found in most of my relationships that when I fear someone is going to hurt me or let me down it often comes true but I have started to wonder if that’s because of my own concerns not because of something they’ve done wrong.
Some people would call this a self-fulfilling prophecy, a thought or idea that comes true because you believed it would. For example, if you believe this person is going to hurt you and break your heart like all the others guys did then maybe he will. It’s a terrible downward spiral and it only ends in heartbreak and hurt (and possibly a lot of chocolate ice cream to ease the pain). I get it.
It doesn’t need to be this way, why not decide today that no matter how this relationship goes (and yes, it will have its ups and downs) you will go with the flow. You will not worry, complain, believe he will hurt you, because you don’t know that. Take it one step at a time and follow your heart, at the end of the day, if it’s not meant to be, it won’t be. It’s as simple as that.
You just have to know that you want to be in this relationship with the good times and the bad but through it all it will be worth it. No secretly checking his Facebook page every day looking for reasons to not trust him, NO, this time you will trust you feelings and let yourself go (a little) because if you don’t want this to end badly, that my friend is up to you!
Good luck ladies!
Until next time xox